Hey girl, hey! I hope that everyone’s week is off to a great start! I hope that you all have made a to-do list for this week, filled with goals that you want to accomplish, and I hope that you’re checking them off one-by-one! As you can see from the title of this week’s post, we’re diving into friendships and being unequally yoked with people. I don’t know about you all, but I feel like this topic is so befitting for the way I am evolving in life. I have watched many so-called friends come and go in my 22 years of living. People who said that they would always have my back and would support me no matter what, have quickly turned a blind eye when life got too difficult. And don’t get me wrong, I respect that everyone handles life differently and I’m not expecting to talk to you everyday, but at least learn to keep your word…. Whew chile, didn’t I tell you this topic was befitting? Before I get too ahead of myself, let’s do this the right way… Grab your wine glasses and let’s get into the topic: “Check ya friend’s list: being unequally yoked!”
Now, in order to be able to “Check ya friend’s list” I feel like we have to first define what a friend is and what do friendships consist of. I define a friend as being someone of your equal. Meaning that you as my friend and me as yours, have an equally, mutual understanding that if one person is slacking we will do everything that we can to pick them back up; being sure that we are not mentally and emotionally draining ourselves. I know that as my friend you will tell me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear at that moment. As a friend, you understand that you will not always have the opportunity to talk and spend time with each other, but whenever we link up it’s nothing but positive vibes. Friendships are about give and take! Friendships are about empowering each other as well as others, and not tearing down the next person to feel good about yourself. I have met some amazing people in my line of work that have become more of a friend than people that I have been friend’s with for years. The older I get the more I realize that when it comes to any type of relationship, it’s not about the time you spent building that relationship but rather the vibe and the connection between you and that individual. In "Self-Care/Mini-Mental Check-in" I talked about vibes and learning how to discern spirits of potential candidates, and you know what? The same thing applies to friendships! And you can definitely tell the type of friendship that you may or may not have with someone, just based on your first encounter with that person. I remember my choir teacher from high school pulled me to the side one day and gave me a true heart-to-heart. Again, he told me what I NEEDED to hear versus what I wanted him to say. He spoke to me about the people I was hanging around, the guy I was dating at the time, and me being disobedient to my “calling” Chillleeee, when I say he got me all the way together, I truly mean that. To spare you the time, he basically told me that I was unequally yoked with the people around me and until I changed that I would be uncomfortable. You know when you’re around individual(s) who just don’t fit your criteria, meaning they just aren’t going the same direction that you are. And when you’re in this space you have a heavy feeling of being uncomfortable…and that’s what I had been experiencing. Now it didn’t happen for me right away, being that I was a young, dumb teenager, but overtime his conversation with me finally made sense. "So how exactly do I check my friends list?"
It is my hope that something I have said has helped you in some way. I hope that you truly take the time to evaluate the people that you have around you and call your friend. Remember, in wine there’s truth! Until next time, Ashley
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