Okay sis, let’s keep it real for a second.. how many times have you been asked by one of your coworkers, classmates, or non-cultured friends “Oooh, can I touch your hair?” And how many times have you given the same tired ass look of “I wish you would!” A black woman’s hair is like her crown and I don’t ever recall someone walking up to Queen Elizabeth asking if they could touch her crown! What is it that causes our non-seasoned friends to want to touch our hair? Is it the fact that it’s so versatile? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I just love how you can change your hair so many different ways.. my hair is so flat, it can’t do that!” So what you’re telling me is that you’re just trying to figure out how I went from a TWA (Teenie-Weenie Afro) to 24” inches of Poetic Justice.
If you follow me on Instagram (ashleyashleeashleyy), a few weeks ago I posted a poll asking is it okay for anyone other than your hairstylist to touch your hair? Now the poll didn’t perform too well, but the results that I did receive were all across the board. Some ladies gave me a flat out “Hell nah!” While others felt that it depended on the person, the hairstyle, and the situation. Now, me personally, I’m a little more laid back however that does not mean you should get comfortable touching my crown. I have a few un-seasoned friends that actually are interested in learning more about the culture and how I take care of my crown. Those are my only exceptions, other than that I do not believe in random strangers touching my hair! Now I’m not a mind reader, but I already know what you’re thinking, what about people I know? What about my man? Well sis, which one do you want me to answer first? Ya man? Personally, my X-better half knew that the only time you could touch my hair was when it was first done (because I just looked that fine) or when it’s untamed and I asked him to play in it. Other than those two exceptions, don’t test me if you value your fingers! Next question, what about people I know? Unless you’re helping me style/part/or fix my hair PLEASE DO NOT TOUCH MY CROWN. -MANAGEMENT I will only touch on this for .5 seconds, because I do have un-cultured friends, but I do not feel that it is necessary nor do I allow those not of color to touch my crown. Again, there are maybe 1 or 2 that I did let feel it, but I find myself backing away when I see others start to extend their hands. I guess I’m a little lost on the entitlement to touch our hair? You don’t go around touching your friends hair, or maybe you do, so why do you feel the need to touch mine? The moral of the story here is this: If you are un-cultured/un-seasoned, please DO NOT TOUCH A BLACK WOMAN’S HAIR! If you are apart of the culture, you know the rules so just follow them. Management thanks you kindly! I have to tell you, I had fun with this one ladies but I want to hear from you! Tell me how you feel about your crown being touched, especially without your permission!
2 Comments
Stuck0nLex ?
6/7/2019 07:00:42 am
Ever since I started my locs, they’ve been like a finger magnet. People get offended when I snatch my head back or nicely stop their hands from touching them because they don’t realize The “don’t touch my hair” attitude isn’t just some cultural cliche, we really mean DON’T TOUCH. Not only did it take me an hour to get this bun slayed and secured but all the germs and oils people have on their hands gets transferred to my hair. Yuck! So I totally agree and it’s not just for the “unseasoned” but a general rule of boundaries and respect overall.
Reply
Wine With Me
6/7/2019 07:24:25 am
First of all, congratulations on starting your loc journey! That’s so exciting! I wish I had enough confidence to do so. How’s your journey been? Thank you for bringing in the germ component! Like first, have you washed your hands lately? Let me see under your finger nails!
Reply
Leave a Reply. |
Hey girl, hey!Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog! It is my hope that something I say moves you to be the best you that you can be! And as always, remember in wine there's truth! Categories
All
|